This is a relatively common and murky issue for my female clients: how to deal with ongoing communication in their difficult divorces.

As the ladies I work with are coming out of marriages characterized by incredibly unhealthy relationship dynamics, for many the ideal outcome would be ‘block them, move on, never see them again

However, when someone is in divorce negotiations and especially when children are involved, the typical advice is ‘Keep the lines of communication open. Be ‘adult’ about things and work things through sensibly’.

Now this may have been wise advice back in the time of ‘land-lines and phone charges per call’ but now with What’s App, email, and a plethora of social media platforms this advice appears unrelated to the reality of cyber-victimization.