Then out of the blue, another girl friend sent me a link for an article about Domestic Abuse. I can remember thinking, ‘why the hell has she sent me this?’ I was completely baffled.

I scrolled down the list of points outlining abuse, completely lost as to their relevance to me. Then, I stopped short.

The words at point 5 screamed out of the page ‘financial abuse: the conscious withholding of finance for an abuser to maintain control’.

Time stopped.

I felt like I had been dropped down a well.

I scanned the other points, my sickness and disorientation only deepening. Oh God. I had experienced them all. ‘How had I not seen this? I was an experienced psychologist! How could I not have seen this?!?’