Are you ready to take your clothes off?

Are you ready to take your clothes off?

In his book “The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life.” Sociologist Erving Goffman uses the metaphor of the stage to argue that much of our self-presentation is performative. We have the backstage and the frontstage. When working with professionals this...
Always follow the light

Always follow the light

In February it was my birthday. I wrote this 2 days after turning 49. I pondered on what my near half century on the planet had taught me? 1. Authenticity is like a volcano In my younger days I tried to ‘fit’ in. In relationships. In career. In...
Sex is complicated for men

Sex is complicated for men

When you work with relationship issues you have to get used to dealing with pretty much anything that comes your way. Now admittedly the vast majority of my clients are women, but just occasionally I get a man who decides ‘enough is enough’ about something...
Hypnotherapy: Is it Woo-Woo?

Hypnotherapy: Is it Woo-Woo?

Today I was discussing my hypnotherapy work with a struggling lady. Like most potential clients she wasn’t really sure if it was for her and wanted to know more about it. No easy task I can assure you. It is really hard to get across to clients that of all the...
What’s the a-gender?

What’s the a-gender?

Every day I work with issues of gender, power, and sexuality. If life is a story, these 3 themes provide the narrative arch professionally and personally. Some snippets from my life: age 5 being held up against a wall every playtime by a bigger boy who had taken a...
Can you add? Join the team…

Can you add? Join the team…

I hated maths when I was younger. It felt like numbers were out to get me. I’m not sure when my dislike started but I certainly remember sitting staring at my Higher Maths paper (a long, long time ago in Scotland) wondering if I had actually walked into a exam...